Thursday, September 21, 2017

So You Wanna Be A Slave

The realm of fetish is one seriously diverse world where you can pretty much find anything that tickles your fancy. 

One request I get on a regular basis is to be my personal slave, a slave that will do anything I order, for me, and mostly to me. 

As tempting as the offer is, I find myself politely declining on most occasions. Why? Well let me clarify.

Being a personal slave for many usually comes with the applicant’s pre-conceived notions of what that is, and notions that 99.99 percent of the time don’t coincide with my own. A slave for most means providing sexual gratification to Mistress or Master, and that generally isn’t what I am looking for in a slave.

Being submissive is also a requirement and with intentions to reside with me under my lock and key, and with constant direction on every aspect of daily life. Ah the fantasy, and that’s just what that is, a fantasy, but done right can be seriously satisfying!

I know a lot of folks living a 24/7 lifestyle and others that play for an afternoon, evening, or a few hours here and there.

Personally I prefer a slave that is high functioning in society, thinking, working, living, socializing, eating, breathing……….but knows their place.

Most on the market for a personal slave have a long list of duties along with a check list of attributes to be rigorously and thoroughly checked off. Hopeful, potential slaves don’t realize it’s not all about the sex, and as much as I love a serious muff dive, there are, household chores to be done. Chores like cleaning the bathroom, vacuuming the rugs, wiping the windows, doing the dishes and laundry. Mistress can’t be expected to live in squalor can she? 

What of the utility bills, rent, or mortgage? Money doesn’t grow on trees!

That proverbial “check list” is something everyone has, even the slave, it’s a list that’s very clearly defined before a person goes looking. Aside from having interests in common there is also the delicate subject of whether or not you are each other’s “type” let alone attracted to each other, if that is the direction you are going. 

It’s a subject so delicate that it can seriously offend a person, because for some that are looking for a slave or wishing to be one, the thought is, “if you’re on the market that anyone and everyone should be eager to graciously accept the offer of servitude or command.”

Just as with dating, compatibility is the issue, and does seriously matter for a relationship to happen, let alone a connection. Then there is a little thing called aesthetic ,we all have that certain aesthetic we appreciate and adhere to, and it’s unique to each and everyone of us.

Other items the list includes is the types of interests you both may share, something to ask prior to the interview, if the information is available. You don’t want to begin a new relationship only to discover they are the ones that want to wear the dress and heels when you were expecting a man’s man. 

Make sure it is clearly defined, you may be a masochist, but they may not be the sadist you were hoping for.

What I hope is that you think before you leap and don’t be afraid to ask questions, if it feels right chances are it is, if i doesn’t keep on looking. And folks, please do remind yourselves not to be offended if rejection comes your way.

About the Author

Velvet is widely known for her appearance on the wildly popular documentary series KINK. She is also a woman, a woman who is a transexual advocate, educating folks on the good, the bad, and the ugly of the world of sex toys and adult therapeutical aids, and as an activist, crusades for the rights of others. As an advocate she created the first Fetish Night in Vancouver which ran for 10 years. Life as a fetishist and visual artist led her to sexual activism, recently finishing work with the City of Vancouver Task Force on Sex Work. She recently finished work as a sensitivity facilitator with Living In Community, sits on the advisory of the Canadian Alliance for Sex Work Law Reform and is an active member of the British Columbia Coalition of Experiential Communities. Her website at presents all her current body of work to the public.

Porn’s Most Popular Stars

Guestpost by

There is no clear formula to success especially in the adult entertainment industry, but these ten adult performers have shown that it can be done.

Adult Entertainment’s Ten Notably Popular Stars
A few adult entertainers have encountered a fleeting ascent and fall in popularity over the span of a year. Meanwhile, others have gathered enough audience to keep them afloat for many years. Unpredictable as it may seem, but achieving notoriety in the porn business is a tough thing to achieve.

In spite of this fact, there is truly no genuine recipe for success in the sex industry, just trade secrets.

But these 10 entertainers have proven to be more than just a flash in the pan. Their resilience through the years and their huge fan following have proven that there is no stopping them.

1. Ashlynn Brooke
Even though it has been just about a decade since she joined the business, this woman has proven that she is a force to reckon with. Winning multiple accolades and recognition, and starring in the movie, “Piranha 3D” has helped propel her to stardom. These days, however, she has her eyes set towards directing naughty parodies of mainstream films, such as Wonder Woman and Little Red Riding Hood.

2. Jenna Haze

This 34-year old beauty has been rocking the AVN Awards (that is porn’s answer to the Oscars) after she was nominated for “Female Performer of the Year” for three consecutive years. Currently, she is one of the most sought-after stars of the Adult Entertainment Broadcast Network (AEBN) – the largest internet video-on-demand provider of the porn industry.

3. Lisa Ann

She has been around since the 1990s and remains as one of the best adult performers around. Ranked number one in popular porn sites, such as PornHub, she has achieved fame after starring as Sarah Palin in a parody in 2008.

4. Evan Stone

Dabbed as Ron Jeremy’s successor, his sense of humour and gorgeous golden mane have made this man almost every lady’s favourite. The 52-year-old adult film star has performed in approximately 1,821 films and directed eight in his entire career as of the moment.

5. Tori Black

Winning as AVN’s performer of the year for two consecutive years (2010 and 2011) has cemented her status as one of the industry’s in-demand entertainers. Within just a few years into her career as an adult entertainer, she starred in more than 200 films starting with the Penthouse Pet.

6. Bobbi Starr

Known as one of the contestants in “America’s Next Hot Porn Star”, she has accumulated a huge following even after failing to win in that pay-per-view reality competition. On the other hand, she is set to be the next crossover artist after being cast in the mainstream film “Drive” alongside Ryan Gosling, Christina Hendricks, and Albert Brooks.

7. Lexi Belle

Probably the youngest on this list, she has received recognition as one of the top-performers in two of porn’s largest award giving bodies, AVN and Xbiz. She made her crossover to mainstream film after starring as Hera in the 2015 action flick, Samurai Cop 2: Deadly Vengeance with co-stars Kayden Kross and Tommy Wiseau.

8. Sasha Grey

Even though she has been in hiatus with performing in adult films, Sasha Grey remained visible to her fans as she took the lead role in Steven Soderbergh’s “The Girlfriend Experience” in 2008. She also appeared as a recurring character on HBO’s series, “Entourage”.

9. Rocco Siffredi

The Italian Stallion, as many called him, has been in the adult industry for more than 3 decades after meeting Gabriel Pontello, a porn actor, in a French strip club in the 80’s. He starred in more than 1,300 pornographic films beginning with Attention Fillettes in 1987. Currently, he works as a producer and director of adult films and has amassed a fortune, making him one of the richest in the adult entertainment.

10. John Holmes

Also known as John Wadd in some of his films, he is one of the most prolific male adult performers of all time. Appearing in almost 2,934 films, he achieved notoriety during the Golden Age of Porn in the 70s and 80s. His life as a porn star and his death had made him the subject of numerous books, an essay in the Rolling Stone magazine, and two feature-length documentaries, and the inspiration of two mainstream films: Wonderland (2003) and Boogie Nights (1997).


As adult entertainers, these people have managed to stand out from the crowd. Popularity may wane but legacies will surely remain, and these men and women have left an indelible mark in the porn industry.


Sunday, April 23, 2017

Conversations That Matter - Sex Workers and PrEP

Triple-Xers Andrew Sorfleet, Anna Smith,
Dan Allman from DLSPH, Sandra Wesley
from Stella and Brenna Bezanson from PACE.
Guest Post by Andrew Sorfleet

NOTE: This article links to some awesome resources on this topic!

There is a long and troubled history when it comes to PrEP research and sex workers

PrEP (HIV pre-exposure prophylaxis) is the idea that a person could take a pill once a day and be protected from catching HIV, not unlike the birth-control pill which protects from unwanted pregnancy.

The troubles began in 2004, when Gilead's HIV treatment product, Viread (tenofovir) was set to be tested on 960 sex workers in Cambodia. 

The Cambodian Women's Network of Unity -- a group of sex worker activists -- demanded health benefits for those who would become HIV-positive. 

The WNU protest was very effective, and researchers halted the placebo-controlled trial after "a verbal directive" from the Cambodian Prime Minister, Hun Sen, that the trial violated human rights.

By 2006, two more tenofovir PrEP clinical trials which involved sex workers were also shut down because of ethical concerns as a result of sex worker and AIDS activists protesting in Cameroon and Nigeria. From 2004 to 2009 three PrEP trial protocols were refused ethics approval in Malawi.

Good Participatory Practices

As a result of these clinical trial closures and because of such successful activism, new clinical ethical guidelines were produced by UNAIDS.

Called "Good Participatory Practices" these new guidelines enabled clinical trials to begin again in Africa and Thailand. In 2010, iPrEx, a clinical study involving 2,133 gay men and 366 transgender women from Peru, Brazil, Ecuador, Thailand and the United States reported high success of Gilead's HIV treatment product Truvada (tenofovir plus emtricitabine) as HIV PrEP.

In 2011, the FEM-PrEP clinical trial in Kenya, South Africa and Tanzania involving 2,120 women was stopped early because of lack of efficacy. In 2012, the VOICE clinical trial in South Africa, Uganda and Zimbabwe involving 5,069 women found no significant difference in the rate of HIV seroconversion between a group receiving oral tenofovir and a tenofovir vaginal gel and the group receiving the corresponding placebo.

While there were still little data for efficacy in women, the U.S. Food and Drug Adminstration approved Truvada for PrEP in 2012. Involvement in commercial sex was listed by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control as risk factor for which Truvada should be prescribed for HIV PrEP.

Truvada for PrEP Comes to Canada
In February 2015, Health Canada also approved Truvada for HIV PrEP in Canada and also listed "involvement in commercial sex" as a risk factor for which Truvada should be prescribed. 

As more provincial and national guidelines were being drafted, involvement in commercial sex, or transactional sex, continues to be listed as a risk factor for which Truvada should be prescribed for HIV PrEP. 

Risk factors also typically include geographical areas or social networks where there is a high number of people who are HIV-positive, as well as illegal drug use.

At the 2016 Canadian Association of HIV Researchers (CAHR) conference in Winnipeg an ad hoc committee of HIV prevention professionals, doctors and researchers, supported by the Canadian HIV Trials Network funded by the federal government through the Canadian Institutes of Health Research, presented draft guidelines for prescribing Truvada as PrEP []. 

Once again, the guidelines mentioned "sex trade workers" as one of the groups with a "significant risk of having transmissible HIV."

The Sex Industry Responds

Because the researchers drafting the guidelines had failed to consult sex workers, seven organizations who work with sex workers drafted an eight-page letter which outlined serious concerns []. 

Triple-X Workers' Solidarity Association of B.C. who authored the letter has yet to receive a formal response over a year later. A final draft of PrEP prescription guidelines are expected sometime this year.

National Consultation
In October 2016, funded by a grant from Elton John AIDS Foundation, Triple-X in partnership with the Dalla Lana School of Public Health, University of Toronto, organized and hosted a national consultation and invited 23 organizations from 10 provinces and territories who provide advocacy or services for sex workers. 

Fifty women, men and trans people from across Canada that work with sex workers met in Toronto. The purpose of this national consultation was to give participants the opportunity to educate themselves, explore and grapple as a group with the implications of PrEP on the sex industry.

Topics covered during the two-day consultation included:

• History of community-based participation in HIV research
• PrEP basics: questions and answers
• How drugs get covered under public and private health insurance
• HIV, sex work and human rights; and
• Clinical trials involving sex workers and research ethics.

Sex workers and sex work advocates are concerned that the new HIV prevention drug, Truvada could result in elevated risks for sex workers, including new pressures from clients and the marketplace to engage in condomless sex because sex workers are expected to be on PrEP.

At the national consultation in Toronto, the Dean of the Dalla Lana School of Public Health, Dr. Howard Hu, gave sex workers a warm welcome and stated that... 

"these kinds of conversations that you have had are some of the many difficult conversations that have to happen in the school of public health. In fact, we call them 'conversations that matter' and creating safe spaces for you and others to conduct these kinds of conversations, we believe, is critical."

#SWPrEP in Montreal

Triple-X and DLSPH held an ancilliary event at the 2017 CAHR Conference in Montreal on April 5 to present "#SWPrEP: HIV Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis and Sex Work in Canada 2016" []. 

This report contains the transcripts of all the expert presentations as well as as the discussions that ensued between sex workers and those who provide services for sex workers.

The #SWPrEP report also features a chronology of PrEP research and a factsheet on Truvada side effects and stills and interviews from sex workers' rights activists featured in the historic 1989 video, "Our Bodies Our Business" which was screened at the 2016 consultation []. 

In addition, "#SWPrEP," a seven-minute video that teases out the issues discussed at the consultation [].

"Nurse Annie" (Triple-X director, Anna Smith) made a surprise appearance in full uniform and gave us a sneak preview of a film she made in 1986 - Canada's first safer sex film.

#SWPrEP was funded by Elton John AIDS Foundation with additional support from Gilead Sciences Canada, Inc., and Canadian Institutes for Health Research (CIHR) a funding program of the federal government.

Included with the report is a 2Gb USB drive which contains the PDF version of #SWPrEP complete with hyperlinks to many of the resources and research available online. 

In addition there are three video files: #SWPrEP: Pre- Exposure Prophylaxis, Our Bodies Our Business: Prostitutes’ Rights Activists at the 5th International Conference on AIDS 1989, and The Condom: How-To.

• #SWPrEP Video:
• #SWPrEP: HIV Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis and Sex Work in Canada 2016:
• Our Bodies Our Business: Prostitutes' Rights Activists at the 5th International Conference on AIDS in Montreal, 1989:
• The Condom: How-To:
• More information about PrEP and Sex Work:

About the Author

Andrew Sorfleet has worked in the sex industry for over a decade and has been a sex workers' rights activist since 1990. He is currently president of the board of Triple-X Workers' Solidarity Association of B.C.

Friday, April 7, 2017

Ten Signs You Spend Too Much Time in Strip Clubs

By Annie Temple

The other night, I was sitting the strip club talking to a cherished regular. A song ended...I clapped; he saw me clapping and put his hands together too. Then we realized no one was on stage.

"You know you spend too much time in a strip club when..." I yelled over the next song, laughing. 

That was the inspiration for this post. Please let me know in the comments if I'm missing anything.


10. You clap at the end of a song...that's playing on the radio.

9. You have two Facebook profiles.

8. You don't bother with bathroom stall doors anymore. 

This is what you're used to.

7. Instead of giving your lover a massage, you just pay for one at the strip club. (You're there anyway.)

6. You stash your money in multiple locations on your body. 

5. You've been featured on The Dirty

"What can i say? People are jealous."

4. You have the phone numbers of several drug dealers even though you don't do drugs. 

3. You can find your way relation to the nearest strip club. 

2. There is no topic of conversation in existence that will make you blush.

1. No one understands you except DJ's and Strippers. 

About the Author

Annie Temple is the stage and writing name of Trina Ricketts. Trina is a former striptease artist and a sex worker rights activist, but she's been a rebel all her life. In 2000, she founded to support other entertainers by reducing isolation, educating about health and safety, sharing information about gigs, challenging stereotypes, teaching etiquette to customers, and organizing in-person events for charity and to promote ethical businesses in the industry.

Sunday, April 2, 2017

The Art and Practice of Manscaping

Guest post by Wesley of

NOTE FROM TNT: This is a guest post for guys who are interested in body hair management. This post is not intended to shame anyone who chooses not to "manscape."

Let's face it, body hair is just part of being a man. We all grow a varying amount of body hair and if you like it or not it plays a role in your appearance. It can be super extreme with back hair resembling a rug or very thin and hardly noticeable.

This is where manscaping comes into play. Manscaping is much more than shaving below the belt. The actual definition is “removing body hair for cosmetic effect”. By this definition, you may already be manscaping and just never realized it.

Why You Should Manscape

There are the obvious benefits you're probably thinking of, most of which involve your family jewels and we'll include those a little later, but what about the other benefits?

The key to being successful at manscaping is understanding your trouble spots. Some of the more common trouble spots are excessive back hair, chest hair, and patchy growth spots. By taking action and handling these trouble spots you’ll significantly improve your shirtless appearance.

It’s a very easy process to get started with. In the beginning, I recommend getting a good body groomer and start off on a longer setting. Trim the hairs and see how it effects your appearance. You can always continue to lower the settings to cut closer and judge how it changes your look.

Once you've found that either trimmed body hair or total hair removal looks best on your then your next trimming session becomes easier. Another reason to start off only trimming the hair is to avoid the itchiness. However, if you have patchy growth spots it's recommended to completely shave off the body hair.

After a little manscaping, it really boosts self-confidence. Even if you're still wearing a shirt you'll feel different. It's the same way for myself and many other guys. Something about it is just uplifting.

Core Benefits to Manscaping

Body Odor – When you remove body hair you'll retain less sweat and trap less dirt. In turn, you'll naturally smell better. This is a big bonus for below the belt as well.

Self-Confidence – Smell better and feeling better will make you more self-confident. A little confidence can go a long way. Women are attracted to confident men.

Hidden Inches – When it comes to manscaping below the belt you’ll actually appear up to 2” inches longer. You may have heard the term “the shorter the bush the taller the tree”. There’s some truth to that saying. Even though it’s an illusion it isn’t a bad problem to have.

Oral Intimacy – It's almost a no-brainer, right? The less hair you have down there the fewer issues your significant other will run into. No one wants hair in their teeth. You may just be in for more encounters and pleasant surprises.

Before You Go!

I hope this article could shed some light on the art of manscaping. It’s easy to get into and I think it should be a part of all men’s hygiene routine. Just grab yourself a good body shaver, like the Norelco 7100, and you’ll be all set.

About the Author

Wesley is the owner of iManscape. A site for men, beards, and manscaping. If you’d like to see more from him like his recent post on butterfly safety razors check out his website or like iManscape on Facebook.

Saturday, March 11, 2017


In the spirit of anti-hate and a truly intersectional politics, we the undersigned express our solidarity with trans women and sex workers by denouncing discourses and practices that engender a culture of discrimination towards trans women and sex workers, prevent their access to health and social services, and otherwise expose trans women and sex workers to harm.

In the wake of a protest and open letter by sex workers, trans women, people of colour, queers, and people in solidarity with them that demanded changes to the structure and content of a local space opened by individuals with a history of transphobic and anti-sex worker practices, we have witnessed widespread and targeted expressions of transmisogyny and anti-sex worker rhetoric.

In light of this, many of our energies have been diverted into a campaign against individual protesters, instead of much needed conversation around the high rates of discrimination, violence, and harassment that is caused to trans women, and how the criminalization of sex workers, clients and third parties in the sex industry contravene sex workers’ rights to safety and self-determination.

● We advocate for actions and initiatives that centre and are led by trans women and sex workers. We commit to creating broader public understanding of the harmful consequences of transmisogyny and anti-sex worker sentiments. We support the rights of trans women and sex workers to resist spaces and organizations that are unsafe to them. We value their voices and testimonies.

● We strongly condemn a radical feminism that perpetuates violence on women’s bodies through the discrimination of trans women and sex workers. People who gaslight, exclude, misgender, and troll trans women and sex workers are not feminists in our eyes, but bigots. Projects that welcome support from these groups and their hate-lobbying leaders endanger the lives of sex workers and trans women.

● We denounce hypocritical and opportunistic uses of the term inclusivity. Genuinely inclusive initiatives must demonstrate accountability and actively give power back to marginalized people. We will not be misled by fraudulent claims while transmisogyny and sex worker phobia proliferate unchecked.

● We recognize that transmisogyny and sex worker phobia are inextricable from the same systems that uphold settler-colonial violence, racism, xenophobia, Islamophobia, misogyny, ableism, and homophobia.

As a result of toxic ideologies, trans women and sex workers have been outed, attacked, and denied rightful access to housing, safe spaces, and social services. We will not stand idle while their lives and safety continue to be put at risk.

Please email to add your name or your organization’s name to this letter.

Click here for updated list of signatories.

Abortion Rights Coalition of Canada (ARCC)
Access Gallery
Arsenal Pulp Press
Alliance Against Displacement
All Our Bodies Zine
Babe Bang
Black Lives Matter—Vancouver BC
The Capilano Review
Denim Vest
Diversity: Arts Music & Entertainment
Erotica Electronica
FIRST Decriminalize Sex Work
Gays Against Gentrification
grunt gallery
The Independent Marxist Coalition
Kenora Pride
The Khyber Centre for the Arts
Killjoy QTBIPOC Collective
Leftover Crafts
LIVE Biennale of Performance Art Society
The Mainlander
The Naked Truth
New Forms Media Society
Open Relationship
Or Gallery
Other Sights for Artist Projects
Out on the Shelves LGBTQ2IA+ Library
PACE Society
The Pacific Association of Artist Run Centres (PAARC)
Period at UBC
Pleasure + Protest, Sometimes Simultaneously!
Poetry is Dead Magazine
The Pride Collective at UBC
Progressive Librarians Guild at UBC
Publik Secrets Artist Collective
Queer Animal Qllective
Queer ASL
Radical Access Mapping Project
Radical Spirits
Rent Cheque
REVERB: A Queer Reading Series
Room Magazine
Selectors’ Records
Simon Fraser Public Interest Research Group (SFPIRG)
Subversive Music
SWAN Vancouver Society
The Talon UBC
The Toast Collective
Trembling Void Studios
UBC Sexual Assault Support Centre (SASC)
Unit/Pitt Projects
The Vancouver Dyke March and Festival Society
Vancouver Status of Women
VIVO Media Arts Centre
The Volcano
WePress Community Art Space
Western Front

Allison Fernie
Danielle St-Amour, Executive Director, Art Metropole
Jayce Salloum
Jenn Matsui De Roo, Registered Clinical Counsellor
Joelle Barron
Kaurwn Bliss
k.ho, Photographer
Magnolia Pauker
Luey Mcquaid
Jodii Grono
Frances Mahon, Barrister and Solicitor
Brixton Driedger
Emily Guerrero, Librarian
Jasper Lastoria
Olivia Toews
Ada Wolters
Vilayvanh Sengsouvanh
Nikki Zawadzki
Emily von Euw, Author
Lois Klassen
John Brennan
Sierra Skye Gemma
Christy Brookes
Keri Korteling
Claire Forsyth, Librarian
Mya Hardman
Sasha Bondartchouk
Lorraine Kecker, Parksville, BC
Roz Maclean
Taylor Cmajdalka
Vida Beyer
Jonathan McPhedran Waitzer
Alyssa Dusevic
Alex Dasein
Natalie Bocking
Alison Bosley
Brenna Bezanson
Casey Stepaniuk, Librarian
Esther Shannon
Courtney Bea
Dot Grossman
Sasha Wiley-Shaw, Poet & Activist
Alexis Rensing
Marlo Turner Ritchie, Consultant
le thi huong ly
Suzanne McCray
Kyla James
Hannah Guinan, Artistic Director, The Khyber Centre for the Arts
Marisa Kriangwiwat Holmes
Mathieu Youdan
Lucinda Murray, MLIS Candidate
Kristine Andersen, Vancouver BC
Cameron Lee
Trina Ricketts
Stormy Allen, Portland, Oregon, USA
Shilo St. Cyr, SASC Manager
Amber Louie, Registered Clinical Counsellor
Alicia Nauta
Eyvan Collins
Marilou Dumas-Babin
Jen Weih
Leigh Matthews, Writer
Darrah Teitel
Vanessa Fernando, Registered Social Worker

Saturday, March 4, 2017

Sex Industry Memes We Love

Compiled by Annie Temple

It occurred to me that I have collected quite a few awesome sex industry images and memes that others may like to share and as it IS International Sex Worker Rights Day, I thought it was the perfect day to share them with you all.

I can't take all the credit because I copied and saved these images from many of you. So, THANK YOU!

Feel free to copy and save them too and share on your social media.

In solidarity and with love,





Please feel free to send me more to add to this page. If you see an image of yourself that you would like removed, please let me know.

#sexworkiswork xoxoxo