December 29, 2009 2:49:39 AM PST
I did one with a doctor and one with a midwife. The difference was mostly in the actual interactions. With the doctor, I waited way longer in the office for my turn. And I had about five to ten minutes of her time. With the midwife, I had 45 minute appmts - 5 minutes for physical exam, 40 minutes for chatting about the pregnancy, concerns, etc. The midwife was willing to come to my house during labour, but it happened too quickly so I met her at the hospital. When I had problems or worries with the midwife, she was very understanding and supportive and took me seriously. When I had a doctor, I was told to go to BC Women's if I had a problem. I went there after my water broke, and a male doctor with very large hands reached into my crotch and determined that my water hadn't broken (idiot). It was a VERY painful examination and I was sent home. Btw, my water had broken. I was just having little trickling. After my baby was born with the doctor, I had a nurse come to my house and treat me very poorly. My baby was colicky, I was having problems breastfeeding and with infections from the delivery, and I was getting no sleep. It was horrible. I felt like such a terrible mother. With my son, I had postpartum depression, the midwife came to my house two times the first week, then a few times more after that. She checked in on me and offered encouragement.
All in all, I much preferred the midwife experience and kind of feel shocked that anyone would choose a doctor if they have the choice. Yet, most of the women I know choose doctors rather than midwives. It's so weird. Never had a doula.