Thursday, September 21, 2017

So You Wanna Be A Slave

The realm of fetish is one seriously diverse world where you can pretty much find anything that tickles your fancy. 

One request I get on a regular basis is to be my personal slave, a slave that will do anything I order, for me, and mostly to me. 

As tempting as the offer is, I find myself politely declining on most occasions. Why? Well let me clarify.

Being a personal slave for many usually comes with the applicant’s pre-conceived notions of what that is, and notions that 99.99 percent of the time don’t coincide with my own. A slave for most means providing sexual gratification to Mistress or Master, and that generally isn’t what I am looking for in a slave.

Being submissive is also a requirement and with intentions to reside with me under my lock and key, and with constant direction on every aspect of daily life. Ah the fantasy, and that’s just what that is, a fantasy, but done right can be seriously satisfying!

I know a lot of folks living a 24/7 lifestyle and others that play for an afternoon, evening, or a few hours here and there.

Personally I prefer a slave that is high functioning in society, thinking, working, living, socializing, eating, breathing……….but knows their place.

Most on the market for a personal slave have a long list of duties along with a check list of attributes to be rigorously and thoroughly checked off. Hopeful, potential slaves don’t realize it’s not all about the sex, and as much as I love a serious muff dive, there are, household chores to be done. Chores like cleaning the bathroom, vacuuming the rugs, wiping the windows, doing the dishes and laundry. Mistress can’t be expected to live in squalor can she? 

What of the utility bills, rent, or mortgage? Money doesn’t grow on trees!

That proverbial “check list” is something everyone has, even the slave, it’s a list that’s very clearly defined before a person goes looking. Aside from having interests in common there is also the delicate subject of whether or not you are each other’s “type” let alone attracted to each other, if that is the direction you are going. 

It’s a subject so delicate that it can seriously offend a person, because for some that are looking for a slave or wishing to be one, the thought is, “if you’re on the market that anyone and everyone should be eager to graciously accept the offer of servitude or command.”

Just as with dating, compatibility is the issue, and does seriously matter for a relationship to happen, let alone a connection. Then there is a little thing called aesthetic ,we all have that certain aesthetic we appreciate and adhere to, and it’s unique to each and everyone of us.

Other items the list includes is the types of interests you both may share, something to ask prior to the interview, if the information is available. You don’t want to begin a new relationship only to discover they are the ones that want to wear the dress and heels when you were expecting a man’s man. 

Make sure it is clearly defined, you may be a masochist, but they may not be the sadist you were hoping for.

What I hope is that you think before you leap and don’t be afraid to ask questions, if it feels right chances are it is, if i doesn’t keep on looking. And folks, please do remind yourselves not to be offended if rejection comes your way.

About the Author

Velvet is widely known for her appearance on the wildly popular documentary series KINK. She is also a woman, a woman who is a transexual advocate, educating folks on the good, the bad, and the ugly of the world of sex toys and adult therapeutical aids, and as an activist, crusades for the rights of others. As an advocate she created the first Fetish Night in Vancouver which ran for 10 years. Life as a fetishist and visual artist led her to sexual activism, recently finishing work with the City of Vancouver Task Force on Sex Work. She recently finished work as a sensitivity facilitator with Living In Community, sits on the advisory of the Canadian Alliance for Sex Work Law Reform and is an active member of the British Columbia Coalition of Experiential Communities. Her website at presents all her current body of work to the public.

Porn’s Most Popular Stars

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There is no clear formula to success especially in the adult entertainment industry, but these ten adult performers have shown that it can be done.

Adult Entertainment’s Ten Notably Popular Stars
A few adult entertainers have encountered a fleeting ascent and fall in popularity over the span of a year. Meanwhile, others have gathered enough audience to keep them afloat for many years. Unpredictable as it may seem, but achieving notoriety in the porn business is a tough thing to achieve.

In spite of this fact, there is truly no genuine recipe for success in the sex industry, just trade secrets.

But these 10 entertainers have proven to be more than just a flash in the pan. Their resilience through the years and their huge fan following have proven that there is no stopping them.

1. Ashlynn Brooke
Even though it has been just about a decade since she joined the business, this woman has proven that she is a force to reckon with. Winning multiple accolades and recognition, and starring in the movie, “Piranha 3D” has helped propel her to stardom. These days, however, she has her eyes set towards directing naughty parodies of mainstream films, such as Wonder Woman and Little Red Riding Hood.

2. Jenna Haze

This 34-year old beauty has been rocking the AVN Awards (that is porn’s answer to the Oscars) after she was nominated for “Female Performer of the Year” for three consecutive years. Currently, she is one of the most sought-after stars of the Adult Entertainment Broadcast Network (AEBN) – the largest internet video-on-demand provider of the porn industry.

3. Lisa Ann

She has been around since the 1990s and remains as one of the best adult performers around. Ranked number one in popular porn sites, such as PornHub, she has achieved fame after starring as Sarah Palin in a parody in 2008.

4. Evan Stone

Dabbed as Ron Jeremy’s successor, his sense of humour and gorgeous golden mane have made this man almost every lady’s favourite. The 52-year-old adult film star has performed in approximately 1,821 films and directed eight in his entire career as of the moment.

5. Tori Black

Winning as AVN’s performer of the year for two consecutive years (2010 and 2011) has cemented her status as one of the industry’s in-demand entertainers. Within just a few years into her career as an adult entertainer, she starred in more than 200 films starting with the Penthouse Pet.

6. Bobbi Starr

Known as one of the contestants in “America’s Next Hot Porn Star”, she has accumulated a huge following even after failing to win in that pay-per-view reality competition. On the other hand, she is set to be the next crossover artist after being cast in the mainstream film “Drive” alongside Ryan Gosling, Christina Hendricks, and Albert Brooks.

7. Lexi Belle

Probably the youngest on this list, she has received recognition as one of the top-performers in two of porn’s largest award giving bodies, AVN and Xbiz. She made her crossover to mainstream film after starring as Hera in the 2015 action flick, Samurai Cop 2: Deadly Vengeance with co-stars Kayden Kross and Tommy Wiseau.

8. Sasha Grey

Even though she has been in hiatus with performing in adult films, Sasha Grey remained visible to her fans as she took the lead role in Steven Soderbergh’s “The Girlfriend Experience” in 2008. She also appeared as a recurring character on HBO’s series, “Entourage”.

9. Rocco Siffredi

The Italian Stallion, as many called him, has been in the adult industry for more than 3 decades after meeting Gabriel Pontello, a porn actor, in a French strip club in the 80’s. He starred in more than 1,300 pornographic films beginning with Attention Fillettes in 1987. Currently, he works as a producer and director of adult films and has amassed a fortune, making him one of the richest in the adult entertainment.

10. John Holmes

Also known as John Wadd in some of his films, he is one of the most prolific male adult performers of all time. Appearing in almost 2,934 films, he achieved notoriety during the Golden Age of Porn in the 70s and 80s. His life as a porn star and his death had made him the subject of numerous books, an essay in the Rolling Stone magazine, and two feature-length documentaries, and the inspiration of two mainstream films: Wonderland (2003) and Boogie Nights (1997).


As adult entertainers, these people have managed to stand out from the crowd. Popularity may wane but legacies will surely remain, and these men and women have left an indelible mark in the porn industry.