Saturday, November 21, 2015

Strip Club Etiquette for Boyfriends of Strippers

By Annie Temple

Your girlfriend has no problem getting naked in front of any man when she’s on her pedestal in the strip club.

Any man, that is, except you. 

There is only one man in the world (other than family members, of course) that she gets insecure dancing in front of – and that’s you.

The reason is because you are not just one of "the men." You're her number one and what you think matters.

For this reason, it is often best for boyfriends and husbands to stay away from the clubs where your woman is working.

If you cannot stay away, then follow these strip club etiquette tips to be worthy of your sexy, stripper girlfriend. 

Strip Club Etiquette for Boyfriends

  1. Don’t sit in front row except for her show and only if she tells you it’s okay.
  2. Buy tickets for private shows from other dancers but don’t take the dance if you win. If she has to do a dance by club rules, give it to someone else and remind that person to tip her.
  3. Don’t tell other dancers that your girlfriend is a dancer to look cool or get her to talk to you. She’ll think you’re hitting on her and it will make your girlfriend look like an idiot for dating you. The exception to this rule is if you’ve met the dancer through your girlfriend and you’re saying hi but have to remind her how you know her.
  4. Don’t sit in front row. Yes, I already said this one, but it’s worth emphasizing.
  5. Don’t instigate arguments with your girlfriend when she’s at work. It makes you look like a chump and her like an idiot for dating you. Not to mention it’s hard to do this job with negative energy thrown at you like that.
  6. Don’t mouth words at your girlfriend when she’s on stage – especially angry words. Let her do her job in peace. Enjoy the show secure in the knowledge that she’s coming home with you. If you can’t handle it, then you should set her free.
  7. Don’t hoot and holler for posters. Clap and whistle for sure. But don’t act like a drunk orangutan. Leave that to the single guys. If you go with friends, tell them to give $5 to the dancers if they want a poster.
  8. Do not drink excessive amounts till you a) fall asleep at your table, b) start talking in drunkanese, c) get in a fight or get beat up, or d) make a drunken pass at a waitress or dancer.
  9. Don’t stare at dancers and waitresses asses or tits when they’re walking through the clubs. It’s disrespectful to your girlfriend. Even though she may not be there with you, the other dancers will feel sorry for her. Watch shows, clap, be respectful – but have some dignity and control.
  10. If you invite a dancer who is your girlfriend’s friend to your table, buy the woman a drink. Don’t hit on her or talk about sex or generally behave like a cheating loser.

Dancers are turned OFF by guys who can’t control their alcohol and/or their hormones. It is very embarrassing for a dancer when her boyfriend has no strip club class. Guys who are in control and behave with respect and dignity will always be respected and appreciated by dancers.

It doesn’t mean we don’t like the guys who are hollering like crazy for our posters, or admiring our booty as we walk through the audience, or the ones who sit in front row. We love all those guys. We just wouldn’t want them to behave that way when they’re dating us. 

We want our guys to stand out from the rest. We want them to have eyes only for us.

It doesn’t change when the dancer has hung up her stilettos either. I performed my last show many years ago and I still expect a man I am with to have strip club etiquette.

When I see a stag at one of the clubs and the groom has some class, I admire him for his control and commitment to his wife-to-be. The grooms who are trying to grab the dancers or hook-up with them – those are the guys who scare me off marriage. They make all men look bad.

So, have some strip club class. Don’t be an ass. Your hard-working stripper girlfriend deserves it.

About the Author

Annie Temple is the stage and writing name of Trina Ricketts. Trina has 17 years experience as a striptease artist and 15 years as a sex worker rights activist, but she's been a rebel all her life. In 2000, she founded to support other entertainers by reducing isolation, educating about health and safety, sharing information about gigs, challenging stereotypes, teaching etiquette to customers, and organizing in-person events for charity and to promote ethical businesses in the industry. Some of the groups and functions that Trina is associated with are Exotic Dancers for Cancer (now BoobaPalooza), The Naked Truth Adult Entertainment Awards,Trade Secrets Guide, BC Coalition of Experiential Communities, Canadian Union of Naked Trades, as well as several community sex worker supportive organizations. Trina is a mom of three, a lover of writing and dancing. Currently she continues to run and recently she founded Digital Activist Media - a project to investigate digital activism strategies and share them with other change-makers. Trina's activism efforts have expanded to include many issues, but her main activities involve sex worker and health freedom rights.

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